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19-10-2016 06:39 PM
19-10-2016 06:39 PM
Re: My daughter tells me I'm responsible for her mental illness
I too had problems with a former boyfriend of my daughters who convinced her that I was the problem and she would be better with me out of her life. I did try to speak to him about this but he very quickly became the expert on her condition and was patronising to me during these conversations. I then decided to take a step back and let go as my daughter dealt with the relationship herself. Needless to say it ended with her boyfriend ironically calling me for assistance. I have to constantly remind myself that my daughter is a 36 year old adult who has to make decisions for her own life. Not all of her decisions are what I would choose for her but it seems to be the constant juggle of being there and letting go which I sometimes get wrong and the conflict begins. But such is the nature of her condition that I ride these bumps hitting the wall at times and bouncing back with her when she realises that she has kicked the person who always has her best interests at heart. Not an easy road for any of us but I can't get off it even when sometimes I really want to.
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19-10-2016 06:47 PM
19-10-2016 06:47 PM
Re: My daughter tells me I'm responsible for her mental illness
Thanks Olly53 for sharing about your daughter. You are resilient and strong. It's a rollercoaster ride, isn't it? Forgive the brevity of my reply. But I appreciate hearing from you x
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19-10-2016 06:52 PM
19-10-2016 06:52 PM
Re: My daughter tells me I'm responsible for her mental illness
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19-10-2016 07:18 PM
19-10-2016 07:18 PM
Re: My daughter tells me I'm responsible for her mental illness
oh thank you Pip.
Yes, there is definitely a 'generation' thing going on. I mentioned to Kate that I'd overheard the boyfriend yelling and swearing at her, and I found this distressing. I said "No man should ever speak to a woman like that. Indeed, no human being should yell at another like that". Kate was quick on boyfriend's defence, telling me I was old fashioned, and that there's no difference in gender. (Any mention of gentlemanly behaviour was scoffed at). And yes, he "understands her", and vice versa, like no-one ever before! Silly old 60 year old mum wouldn't know anything!!
The irony of this situation is that the boyfriend's house is about ten houses away, where his mother and brother live. I have never met them, and I get the feeling that Kate and boyfriend don't want the two mothers to meet.
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